Tuesday 7 July 2009

Correct behaviour

My parents have finally arrived today – yay!!! They’ve brought sushki, sweets, tea and some nice paintings. Besides the fun of being together their arrival also means I don’t have to cook for a month (!) and that many things in the house and garden will be fixed. ;)

Imagine you are involved with someone who is married (not to you obviously). What would you call a correct behaviour: not getting involved with this person at all or not interfere with their other (married) life? Interfering isn’t correct, of that I’m sure. Not getting involved might be correct, but not always a real option. Besides, I think not getting involved only makes sense if you are trying to protect your own interests. A friend of mine said he would never get involved with a married woman. Me: "Why?" He: "What's the point?" Me: "What if you are in love with her?" He: "Then logic doesn't work and anything can happen. But as long as I can control myself, I will not have a relationship with a married woman." Well, he is very young. He might change his mind as years pass. ;) Where I really see no point is in deciding for another person what’s right and how things are supposed to be.

And here is a piece of Soviet cinema classics - Moskva slezam ne verit (we all LOVE this film, if you don’t catch it: the girl’s name is Sasha): http://you.video.sina.com.cn/b/17404647-1276667783.html And tomorrow – if I feel like it – a discussion about who is supposed to take decisions – men or women.

Timeline: December 25th 1979 Soviet Army has entered Afghanistan starting a war that would last ten years. All that time Afghanistan for me was a country at war. I remember pictures of some deserted villages, empty landscapes and tanks on TV. My parents did not have a TV. Well, they had one, but it didn’t work. It just stood there until I took it apart years later. I watched TV when I was in Saratov with my grandparents. It was a black-and-white TV and when we watched figure skating the commentary would describe the colours of the costumes.

7 comments:

  1. Not fair ... you give us a change to enter you poll, but when we tell you we want sex ... we get nothing like that ;P

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  2. Well, a relationship with a married person is usually all about sex!!!!

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  3. No, it isn't ;) At least, there is a chance one party involved doesn't get it ...

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  4. Do you still call it "being involved" if there is no sex?

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  5. If you are married ...

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  6. May be your young friend will change his mind later but the situation will not change, and we all know that there's only one correct solution for the question: Don't touch. Don't touch somebody's happines ever if it seems for you that there's no happines, no love. And what is by the way the goal of being involved like that? If just a sex than why should it be so complicated? adrenalin? does it worse a broken family (probably)? if that's something bigger how one can trust a woman who cheats her husband? I don't. would you?
    For me relationships like that is just an extreme adventure caused by need of risk. Wrong? I don care! hehehe

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  7. That's exactly what I mean: a family can only be broken by its members, so it's not up to you to decide.

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