Originally, a one-night stand referred to a single night theatre performance, usually by a guest group on tour. Nowadays we are still talking about a performance, but of a very different kind. Last Friday I met a guy at a party in Brussels. We were chatting, drinking, flirting and inevitably sex became the topic of the conversation. I said I didn't mind one-night-stands. To me, sometimes a one-night-stand is the best thing to do. Actually I thought this statement of mine would lead to more flirting from his side (not that he didn’t flirt enough), but I got a very different reaction. The guy told me he was not in favour of one-night-stands, that sex is something special and he doesn’t like to share his body just like that, blah, blah, blah. He kept on repeating he wasn’t judging or anything, but he was so fiercely defending his point of view as if to convince me I should never do it again. And I didn’t even argue! For a moment I wanted to make a very disappointed face and ask “So, we are not going to your place tonight?”. Then watch him struggle. But I behaved, didn’t do it.
Tonight I was talking to a (male) friend of mine and he told me he didn’t like to have sex for the sake of it. Sex is an exchange of emotions, and if that’s not there, he’d rather not have sex at all. What’s going on? Have all men become sensitive while I wasn’t looking?